Entries from May 2008 ↓

School’s out. Summer is official and our routine has to shift. I have to look deep inside and find Fun Mommy.

by Tracee Sioux

When I was a girl, Dolly Parton had “big ones.” They were big like a caricature. Dolly’s were abnormal and the butt of jokes all over the media.

I was a B or C cup and my breasts were “normal.” When you’re a girl it’s important to be “normal.”

In today’s terms Dolly Parton isn’t even that big. As a society, we are inundated with images of overly-large, disproportionate, abnormally perky, unnaturally “perfect” breasts all over the media and marketing.

Vast numbers of the breasts we see as “perfect” and “normal” have been altered, surgically or graphically.

Where Dolly Parton’s breasts were an anomaly for our generation, Dolly Parton’s breasts are essentially “the norm” for our daughters. They have no other frame of reference.

Yesterday on Blog Fabulous, I wrote about how our own perception of what breasts are “supposed to look like” has been distorted. This distorted perception is creating poor body image in real women. Women tend to stand in the mirror and compare themselves to this distorted image of the media’s version of “normal.”

Imagine how much worse it must be for our daughters?

What I’m about to say may be radical and may seem wildly inappropriate in 1970s parenting terms.

Get ready . . .hold your breath. . .

If it is age-appropriate and you’re hearing your daughter mutter dissatisfaction about the size or shape of her breasts or the color of her nipples, you might consider visiting the Normal Breasts Gallery with her.

There, I said it. You should show her pictures of non-sexualized real women’s breasts to show her what real women naturally look like.

The Normal Breasts Gallery is an Internet gallery of nude photos of anonymous real women’s breasts, combined with short essays exploring how these women feel about their breasts.

Without it, our daughters’ only frame of reference is the distorted media representation of breasts and our own. That can’t be good for making them feel normal and coming to self-acceptance.

Read more about the damage of seeing only sexualized breasts in the media in APA Reports Sexualizatuion of Girls Devastating.

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Dear Friends and Family,

I know you love Ainsley and so I sold your names, addresses, email addresses, phone and cell numbers to solicitors for a school fund raiser.

They gave the school 50 cents for each family member or friend I sold out.

Gotta support our schools. I knew you’d understand.

Love, Tracee

(I’m only kidding. I would never, ever do this to you and you better not do it to me.)

Hi Mom. Don’t you want to buy some Dollar Store crap for $15 for Ainsley’s school? They’ll give Ainsley a 25 cent pencil if you buy $50 worth.

Please can’t we buy the cereal with a Box Top?

Ainsley, I’m not changing cereal for Box Tops.

No, that’s cheating! You have to put Box Tops on it or they won’t give me a prize!

Honey, do we need any candles? It’s a fundraiser for Ainsley’s school.

No.

No.

Dear Primary School: Thanks for all the family harmony over the fundraisers this year. It’s been real.

Sack Race

How Low Can You Go?

Team Work

Tug Of War!

Dear Tooth Fairy, I dropped my tooth in the grass at school.

Love, Ainsley

This is the 3rd note. The Tooth Fairy left $1 in paper money.

Note 1 – Dear Tooth Fairy

Note 2 -Tooth Fairy Inflation