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Statistics from Respect RX:

• 1 in every 2 females worldwide has been abused during her lifetime.
• 50% of teens in serious relationships say they’ve gone against their beliefs to please their partner, including going further sexually than they wanted.
• 1 in 5 teens who’ve been in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed by a partner.
• 3 out of 10 teen girls become pregnant.
• 1 in 3 students drop out of high school.
• 4 in 10 teen boys have a criminal record.

Simply unacceptable. Don’t accept it. Change it.

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• 98% of 500 teens surveyed understood the difference between respect and disrespect (up from 51% prior to the program)
• 90% of teens respected each other as equals (up from 65%)
• 82% felt equipped to make positive choices and act as role models (up from 42%)
• 94% said they feel more comfortable setting boundaries and speaking up (up from 70%)
• 81% said they will get help when they were disrespected or to achieve their goals (up from 42%)

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Newsweek has an article about a phenomenon called Reproductive Coercion.

Essentially, the male in the relationship is coercing the female to become pregnant so he can control her forever, through the child. After the baby, he reasons, he’ll be able to control her forever. Her odds of leaving him to find another man lessen and he will have more control over the rest of her life. Having a baby only strengthens her resolve to stay in a dangerous relationship.

New research suggests that reproductive coercion is often found where physical and emotional abuse is found. Controlling his partner is the same motivator as all other forms of abuse, and one of the mechanisms for controlling his partner is trying to get her pregnant.

He may insist she not use birth control, monitor her menstrual cycle, flush birth control pills down the toilet, forbid her from seeing a doctor or going to a family planning clinic, and refuse to use a condom or poke a hole in one.

Like domestic and dating violence, the rate of reproductive coercion for teenage girls mirrors the rate for adult women.

The difference being that teenage girls have little experience with relationships and often don’t know that what is happening to them is wrong, dangerous, controlling or abusive.

The boundary between reproductive coercion and relationship violence—and whether there is, in fact, a boundary at all—is a difficult issue for health-care providers to address. In some cases, it can fit a spectrum of other abusive behaviors, from threatening to physical violence, that create an imbalance in a relationship’s power dynamic. “Just like violence, it’s a power thing,” says Walker, who has seen patients whose boyfriends monitor their periods to ensure they’re not taking Depo-Provera contraceptive shots (which often cause women to skip their period). “The man is taking away a woman’s power to decide she’s not going to have a child. Still, the line is unclear. Miller, for example, would be hesitant to categorize reproductive coercion as a form of partner violence, since many states have laws mandating reporting of such incidents. “I’m not sure that a young woman telling me that her partner flushed her birth control down the toilet necessitates me reporting that to the authorities,” says Miller. In these situations, Miller has two concerns: getting the teenager onto a birth control she can hide from her partner (possibly Depo-Prevera shots, which last three months and are administered at a doctor’s office) and building a relationship with the patient to explore the possibility of ending the relationship.” What we hear from domestic-violence survivors is they don’t like being told they have to leave a relationship,” says Miller. “So instead of saying, ‘This is an abusive relationship,’ our counseling is very much focused on having them explain how this affects their health.”

In every situation, every abusive relationship is about control.

The best prevention is to talk with your daughter about her right and responsibility to control her own body, her own mind, her own choices, her own life, her own future, her own decisions, her own reproductive system, her own friends, her own job, etc.

To control ourselves is our inherent birthright.

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Did you know that Pepsi products like Amp Up are the leading cause of death in young men, causing cancer and early onset impotence?

Just trying to think up an appropriate response to their foul and disgusting new iPhone App, “Before You Score.”

The App allows men to identify the “type” of girl he’s trying to score with, keep a list of girls like the old-fashioned bed post, and share the details with friends – details like phone numbers, photos, addresses –  like a digital bathroom stall wall.

I’ve gotten lots of mail about this. From mothers, from men raising daughters.

I’ve got a few ideas on what we can do to stop it, but they involve things like boycotting Pepsi products. A boycott on only Amp Up won’t really be effective – because it’s primary customer is young men.

Is it too much to expect young men themselves to be disgusted by this and stand up to Pepsi, chivalrously, on behalf of their girlfriends, wives, sisters and daughters? I sometimes get accused of hating men. I don’t.

I’m am disappointed in them for not standing up for girlfriends, wives, sisters and daughters when a company like Pepsi objectifies all women like this.

Male peer pressure is the most effective way to reduce objectification of women, violence towards women and child molestation.

My talking on this website isn’t nearly as effective.

I’m left with options like – Let’s go Mean Girl on Pepsi Co.

Twitter this and pass it around until they take the App down: Pepsi products are main cause of death and early onset impotence in young men, http://thegirlrevolution.com/man-up-and-mean-girl-on-pepsi/

Maybe some men will be persuaded to be less disappointing and stand up for the women and girls in their lives. Maybe some girls and women will demand some respect from the men in their lives.

Read more on Jezebel.com, and WSJ Online.

Photo taken from Jezebel.com.

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The writer of Genesis makes it clear that in all of creation there is something different about humans. . . in some distinct, intentional way, something of God has been placed in them. . . a divine spark resides in every single human being.

Everybody, everywhere. Bearers of the divine image.

Picture a group of high school boys standing by their lockers when a girl walks by. One of the boys asks, “How do you rate that?” Then they take turns assigning numerical values to the various parts of her anatomy.

This scenario happens all the time, all over the world, every day. It’s a pastime for some. There are television shows and websites and endless discussions all devoted to deciding who’s hot and who’s not. It’s an industry, a form of entertainment, a culture.

And it’s everywhere.

The problem is that “that” is actually a “she.” A person. A woman. With a name, a history, with feelings.

– Rob Bell, Sex God: Exploring the Endless Connections between Sexuality and Spirituality

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Ainsley doesn’t think this shirt is inappropriate because it just looks like trees on a shirt, “how is that inappropriate?” She wants to know.

Which means I deserve a Gold Parenting Star or a Blue Ribbon of Daughter Raising. This means the seven year old is in the minority having not been exposed to Internet Porn or the E Channel yet.

When I mentioned the word “stripper,” she said “what’s a stripper?”

Go me! She’s sheltered enough to remain . . . what’s the word I’m looking for . . . . oh yeah, seven.

Suzi Warren, the creator of this TODDLER TITTY TASSLE T-Shirt sold at Twisted Twee reportedly spoke to Parent Dish, who was quoted on  Stroller Derby, who was quoted on Gateway Pundit , and reportedly claimed to have created this shirt in protest to how the rest of us our dressing our girls.

“The Nipple Tassel t-shirt was designed as a response to my own distaste at seeing mini versions of sexy clothes on young children,” she wrote. “Five-year-olds wearing slashed mini skirts and boob tubes, little thumb-sucking Britneys.

“There is nothing very sexy about a baggy, lap neck, long sleeved t- shirt for a 6-month-old. So by embellishing this style of garment with printed nipple tassels, the result is not that the baby becomes sexualized by the tassels, but that the tassels are made benign and silly by the baby. In fact the more inert, innocent and unaware the infant is, the more ludicrous the contrast becomes.”

Of course, your kid doesn’t get to be naively, gloriously seven if you dress her in a shirt like this, “in protest.” The way the other parents point and refuse to let their kids play with yours will probably invoke questions. Inappropriate questions.

You know who I think this shirt is perfect for? Pedophiles.

You know what I think parents should do to companies who start offering products like these? (Along with their child un-friendly alphabet tea towel which reads “C if for” and has a photo of a Condom also reeks of pedophilia undertones.)

Let them go down in Recession Smoke.

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