Comments on: Dating Violence http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/ Growing Girls With Purpose Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:56:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: True Love Waits – Twilight — The Girl Revolution http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-6005 True Love Waits – Twilight — The Girl Revolution Tue, 15 Dec 2009 22:35:24 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/#comment-6005 [...] Except that it doesn’t account for the language in the book that struck me as exactly the same dialogue we hear from battered women and victims of teen relationship violence. [...] [...] Except that it doesn’t account for the language in the book that struck me as exactly the same dialogue we hear from battered women and victims of teen relationship violence. [...]

]]> By: Empowering Girls: Sex Offender Next Door — The Girl Revolution http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-5985 Empowering Girls: Sex Offender Next Door — The Girl Revolution Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:37:17 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/#comment-5985 [...] Teen Violence and Sex Offender Statistics [...] [...] Teen Violence and Sex Offender Statistics [...]

]]> By: Gossip Girl & R-A-P-E — The Girl Revolution http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-5954 Gossip Girl & R-A-P-E — The Girl Revolution Tue, 15 Dec 2009 17:13:19 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/#comment-5954 [...] as the new normal by the consumer there are wide-range consequences for the sexualization of girls. Dating violence is a real problem, in that 1 in 5 girls are victims of it, and I believe producers of this show are [...] [...] as the new normal by the consumer there are wide-range consequences for the sexualization of girls. Dating violence is a real problem, in that 1 in 5 girls are victims of it, and I believe producers of this show are [...]

]]> By: So Sioux Me http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-382 So Sioux Me Tue, 25 Sep 2007 12:50:00 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/#comment-382 We want our daughters to be safe so we pretend that we can control male behavior by changing OUR clothes and behavior. If we feel we have some measure to protect ourselves with then we can pretend we're okay. We don't have that and we have to walk around afraid all the time. I think it feels far worse to tell a daughter "1 out of 5 girls are raped, but there's really nothing you can do to stop it or control it, have a good day at school."<br/><br/>Mothers of boys want to believe THEY did it "right" I guess. Versus all the other mothers, I suppose. To admit our sons would perpetrate against girls is to admit they would purpetrate against us or hate us, which equals our failure in raising the next generation of people. <br/><br/>That's my theory anyway. That's the best I can work out in the face of mothers defending boys and blaming daughters. We want our daughters to be safe so we pretend that we can control male behavior by changing OUR clothes and behavior. If we feel we have some measure to protect ourselves with then we can pretend we’re okay. We don’t have that and we have to walk around afraid all the time. I think it feels far worse to tell a daughter “1 out of 5 girls are raped, but there’s really nothing you can do to stop it or control it, have a good day at school.”

Mothers of boys want to believe THEY did it “right” I guess. Versus all the other mothers, I suppose. To admit our sons would perpetrate against girls is to admit they would purpetrate against us or hate us, which equals our failure in raising the next generation of people.

That’s my theory anyway. That’s the best I can work out in the face of mothers defending boys and blaming daughters.

]]> By: Jonna http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-380 Jonna Mon, 24 Sep 2007 20:06:00 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/dating-violence/#comment-380 When I was a young teenager (and same for my sister), my dad took me on dates to show me how a boy should treat me if we were dating. He held the door for me, he paid for things, he even put his arm on the back of my chair, and he kissed my cheek when he brought me home (all safe dad-daughter stuff). But he pointedly mentioned all of the things that he wouldn't do because he was my dad but also because boys I went out with shouldn't do those things either. And that if anybody ever treated me less than I deserved, that I should tell him, and he'd always be there to keep me safe. Naturally, Dad wasn't really always there to keep me safe, but I knew I could go to him, and I definitely knew what I deserved, and set rather high standards for the guys I went out with. When I was a young teenager (and same for my sister), my dad took me on dates to show me how a boy should treat me if we were dating. He held the door for me, he paid for things, he even put his arm on the back of my chair, and he kissed my cheek when he brought me home (all safe dad-daughter stuff). But he pointedly mentioned all of the things that he wouldn’t do because he was my dad but also because boys I went out with shouldn’t do those things either. And that if anybody ever treated me less than I deserved, that I should tell him, and he’d always be there to keep me safe. Naturally, Dad wasn’t really always there to keep me safe, but I knew I could go to him, and I definitely knew what I deserved, and set rather high standards for the guys I went out with.

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