Dear TGR: I Hate Being a Ginger! Dear Ginger: Go Blond

Dear TGR,

I’m a red head. I hate my hair — now here’s why.

Kids are cruel. They make fun of the littlest things — like the color of your hair. And you act like you don’t care — but when you get to highschool you really start to care again. It’s not fun when you can blind people because your hair is so shiny — there’s not much fun about being a red head actually …  And then there’s the pale skin that usually comes along with it — and all the freckles. You grow up thinking you’re not pretty. That you’re a freak. And personally I wish that when I have kids — they don’t have my “curse” as I call it. I don’t want them to be “gingers” or “fire crotches.” It’s not fun. I can understand why other girls wouldn’t want to be red. Sometimes I wish that people would notice me for more than just my hair — especially when that’s my least favorite thing about myself. But that’s all people notice. It’s annoying. And guys do like it — but that just means they’re looking at your physical body and not your heart.
I don’t want to be a “Ginger” anymore. In fact I NEVER wanted to be a “ginger”

Rather Be Marianne


Dear Rather Be Marianne, 

I’m going to give it to you straight. This is a problem you have the power to solve through chemicals.

You have a few choices here. You could go Blond or Auburn. Blond will likely be more expensive and require diligent maintenance, Auburn you can achieve by popping into your local drugstore or Walmart and choosing the color that screams your name for under $10. Google images of Nicole Kidman and see all the variations of Strawberry and Blonde and Auburn she’s done and figure out what you’d like to try first, you are free to change your mind at any time.

If you choose Auburn, follow the instructions closely and do the strand test (seriously, I know people who have had their hair fry off, including myself). With Auburn your red roots will grow out nicely and you won’t have to touch them up as often. You can do touchups yourself at home and it will be pretty affordable to maintain with hair color from the drug store. Auburn has a red undertone so, it will compliment your natural skin tones nicely. 

If you choose to go blond, it will be more expensive to have done and require more maintenance because your roots will be more noticeable. Go to a medium-pricey salon. (Do not trust Walmart or Cost Cutters or you will likely beg for your lovely Ginger Mane back.) Tell them you, like Nicole Kidman who was also a natural redhead, now prefer to be a blond. Don’t go Barbie Platinum Blond, ease into it subtly to avoid more teasing. Think about starting with a light Strawberry Blond and remember you can always go lighter or darker after a few weeks if you don’t like the results. Take photos with you to the salon. Try a new cut with your color (the cut is free with a color so you might as well).

Be prepared, for this will be about maintaining blond hair every six to eight weeks — so you’ll need to get a job if you’re parents can’t afford it or aren’t willing to make the sacrifice. A good hair color will run around $60 -$100. Don’t do this yourself the first time. (Maybe after you’ve had great success several times and you feel like you’ve gotten the hang of it you can try touchups yourself.) But, if you hate being a Ginger as much as you say you do — well, I bet you’ll think the cost is worth it.

As to your alabaster skin, try a self-tanner. I recommend TGR Body’s Sun-Kissed Body and Sun-Kissed Face for a natural, organic tan all year long. 

Good Luck to you Rather Be Marianne! Let me know how it goes. 

Tracee, The Girl Revolution

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#1 Trina on 10.21.11 at 12:48 pm

Dear TGR,
I am fairly new to your blog but have really enjoyed your ‘bare it all’ style that shows the real side of women. That is why I was a bit dismayed to read your most recent post about ‘gingers’. Specifically, I was disheartened to see that, rather than pointing out all the reasons why Rather Be is beautiful for having gorgeous, curly, shiny hair, or giving examples of gorgeous and successful red-heads in our society, you instructed her to change herself. Don’t get me wrong, I love a change of hair color now and then, but I also feel young women are too often told they are not good enough the way they are and that people will like them much more if they change their appearance. That deminishes their worth- women are so much more than hair and skin color. I would have loved to see a little more girl empowerment here.

#2 Tracee Sioux on 10.21.11 at 1:08 pm

I’m sure Rather Be Marianne is beautiful just the way she is Trina. But, the thing is she doesn’t FEEL like it. And nothing I say is going to suddenly morph her into feeling like it.

Trying a new hair color isn’t going to diminish her worth any more than putting on a new dress or painting her nails. Getting a break from teasing may give her some self confidence.

The beauty of today’s beauty technology is that we don’t have to get stuck with what we’re born with. We can change our hair color, we can try new looks. I personally have experienced a great deal of power and creativity from changing my look and reinventing myself a million times over.

Beauty should be fun. Rather Be Marianne isn’t having any fun. That’s why I gave her the advice I did. Not because she’s not good enough, but because I think she could be having more fun and she can achieve that with a little experimentation with what she’s got.
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#3 tirsoj on 11.04.11 at 7:34 am

Why do you hate being a ginger! Shun those kid who tease you. Look at you now! Your such a stunning girl.
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