But, maybe the time has come to change the rules and make the workplace more family-friendly.

Vaginal birth doesn’t make one more “mother” than c-section birth. Nor does conception and birth make someone more of a mother than the painstaking, heartbreaking, expensive and time consuming process of adoption.

The workplace values NO mothering roles. If it did, adoptive mothers and birth mothers would get a reasonable amount of leave.

Many countries give mothers one or two years of leave – because they actually VALUE motherhood.

I used to work for two principals at once…one woman and one man. My female boss was very difficult to work with…very controlling and really seemed to strive to be the stereotypical domineering male type. The man, on the other hand, was quite easy to get along with and very flexible in his management.

Now this is just an anecdote and doesn’t mean anything, but I always wondered if this is what we really wanted when we (as women) decided we wanted to enter the workforce and break through the glass ceiling. Did we want to strip ourselves completely of our femininity to be successful? Do we have to make ourselves masculine? Or is there room in the workplace for what a woman might bring?

I don’t know…these were just my thoughts. And I get tired of being told directly or indirectly that my choice to stay home has somehow hurt the cause of women. I have three daughter and a son. I think I have enough of an investment in the future of mankind to guard it closely.