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]]> By: Anonymous http://thegirlrevolution.com/empowering-girls-attitude-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-1763 Anonymous Fri, 18 Jul 2008 15:10:00 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/empowering-girls-attitude-problem/#comment-1763 A friend of mine's son tests her all the time because he wants attention. He's most like her out of all her children but he's not the first child and he's not the baby of the family. I think he kind of gets lost in how to see himself and that's compacted by the fact that he's the most empathic and volatile out of all her three boys. <br/>She says the only way she can handle him when he's like that is to keep him on her hip for a week. She gets him to help her, sit next to her, read with her and basically runs him ragged. Then he figures out she's not going anywhere, he doesn't need to test her resolve and that he'd really like to be left alone for a while and the best way to get that is to do what he's told. A friend of mine’s son tests her all the time because he wants attention. He’s most like her out of all her children but he’s not the first child and he’s not the baby of the family. I think he kind of gets lost in how to see himself and that’s compacted by the fact that he’s the most empathic and volatile out of all her three boys.
She says the only way she can handle him when he’s like that is to keep him on her hip for a week. She gets him to help her, sit next to her, read with her and basically runs him ragged. Then he figures out she’s not going anywhere, he doesn’t need to test her resolve and that he’d really like to be left alone for a while and the best way to get that is to do what he’s told.

]]> By: candeelady My Tween Parenting Blog http://thegirlrevolution.com/empowering-girls-attitude-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-1712 candeelady My Tween Parenting Blog Sat, 05 Jul 2008 10:56:00 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/empowering-girls-attitude-problem/#comment-1712 I agree with Lynnie and violet. Kids are rudest to the parent they trust the most. they are testing limits with someone they know won't kill them.<br/><br/>The boot Camp is perfect - she needs to know you will not allow this attitude and it has serious consequences.<br/><br/>You have to know when she pushes you until you scream at her and then you apologise - she is victorious! She has won the power struggle. Because all these squabbles are about power not the specific issue of cleaning a room or whatever.<br/><br/>You are right to nip this before the teen years - you are on the right track. It's very tough but you are moving into the years when you are less a playmate and becoming more of a mentor disciplinarian. It sucks but has to happen to prepare the kid to function in the real world successfully. I agree with Lynnie and violet. Kids are rudest to the parent they trust the most. they are testing limits with someone they know won’t kill them.

The boot Camp is perfect – she needs to know you will not allow this attitude and it has serious consequences.

You have to know when she pushes you until you scream at her and then you apologise – she is victorious! She has won the power struggle. Because all these squabbles are about power not the specific issue of cleaning a room or whatever.

You are right to nip this before the teen years – you are on the right track. It’s very tough but you are moving into the years when you are less a playmate and becoming more of a mentor disciplinarian. It sucks but has to happen to prepare the kid to function in the real world successfully.

]]> By: Tracee http://thegirlrevolution.com/empowering-girls-attitude-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-1700 Tracee Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:45:00 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/empowering-girls-attitude-problem/#comment-1700 Lynne, I've heard that theory too. <br/><br/>It seems like a back-handed compliment (from my kid) if there ever was one. <br/><br/>Of course, I will love her unconditionally. <br/><br/>But, I dislike being treated like crap - by anyone. Generally, I stop hanging out with people who treat me in disrespectful ways. <br/><br/>In your teaching/parenting experience is there an effective method to get her to stop treating me like crap? <br/><br/>Right now, I'm trying Boot Camp (see today's story). Lynne, I’ve heard that theory too.

It seems like a back-handed compliment (from my kid) if there ever was one.

Of course, I will love her unconditionally.

But, I dislike being treated like crap – by anyone. Generally, I stop hanging out with people who treat me in disrespectful ways.

In your teaching/parenting experience is there an effective method to get her to stop treating me like crap?

Right now, I’m trying Boot Camp (see today’s story).

]]> By: 'That Girl' http://thegirlrevolution.com/empowering-girls-attitude-problem/comment-page-1/#comment-1699 'That Girl' Thu, 03 Jul 2008 13:55:00 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/empowering-girls-attitude-problem/#comment-1699 Oh, I like that one. Oh, I like that one.

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