If I were picking daughters off the shelf I would pick you Ainsley.
If I were picking Mommies of the shelf I would pick you Mommy.
(Idea taken from Growing a Girl: Seven Strategies for Raising a Strong, Spirited Daughter
Empowering Girls: I Would Pick You
May 9th, 2008 | Body Image & Self Esteem, Mother-Daughter Emotional Osmosis
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Tracee-
I would be really interested in hearing more about this specific idea — is it about affirmations, what else is part of the exercise. Sounds really lovely.
I love this! I tell my girls how upset I would be if some other mom had ended up with them, that I’d see them and wish they were mine.
Thanks for asking Mom, I think it’s about a lot of different elements.
Parents tend to criticize to teach kids and this sometimes gives the message “you’re not good enough” or “you’re not what I wanted.”
Many parents might say, I wish you were cleaner, neater, nicer, studied harder, better at math, quieter, etc.
I think kids need to hear we got exactly what we wanted, exactly what we needed in our kids.
No need to quest for perfection to win my love – YOU, exactly as you are, YOU – were what I wished for and what I would choose again.
It’s also about seeing them for who they ARE and not for what they DO, I think.
I think Ainsley also gets a sense of belonging from it. God placed her with exactly the right family, if you will.
And I think it teaches them to appreciate a sense of uniqueness. Kids want to be “like others” on the shelf, but I think this message paints the picture that you didn’t want the grape jelly like all the other grape jelly – you wanted the cranberry jelly and it’s what you would have chosen if you were picking.
Don’t we want our kids to learn to love to be the cranberry jelly and not wish or try to be the grape jelly like everyone else?
HI Tracee,
I have read some of your blogs, I ran across the one about the show Jon and Kate plus 8 that is how I found your show and I just want to say I like you, I like the way you are and how you share your voice. Your very unique, you say things in a way that may not be popular and perhaps some don’t like your humor but, I have to say I like you and I am going to keep your blog at my blog so I can visit you again to read more of your past blogs to get to know you better and to listen to you because I do understand how you say things.
Hugs,
Sheila
oh my blog your blog will be at it’s G rated in case you want to visit:
http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Sheila/
Well thanks Sheila. I appreciate it.
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Aww it’s sweet.
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