Comments on: Empowering Girls: Sex Offender Next Door

By: candeelady

candeelady — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 04:20:00 +0000

Boy I do not envy you – this is a tough situation, but your in a worry limbo spot that is not fun soooooo…. I’m one to confront people, tactfully, and get problems resolved. IMO- I suggest you call him and ask to meet with him ( you and your neighbor friend together)by saying you’re aware of his record and are very concerned. His reaction will tell you a lot. If he refuses then he is not facing the past and trying to move forward with remorse and dignity. Whether it was a minor or major offense, y ou will have to watch you kids closely and tell them to steer clear of him. An unpleasant way to live by a neighbor, but a “must do”. His wife may not even KNOW about it??

If he agress to meet you then you can say “we are very concerned about your police record, what’s the story?”(period) See what he says to explain himself and as you said – his body language will tell you a lot. Based on his answer, let him know how you feel about the safety of your kids. Following this talk you will either have a mild concern or a major concern – and monitor your kids accordingly. But most important, if you feel he is a current risk, you will have established a position of power – that you know he has a problem and will not tolerate it in your neighborhood.

Your husbands response is standard male avoidance of facing anything involving “t-a-l-k-i-n-g” LOL

By: jen

jen — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 00:52:00 +0000

Damn Tracee that's tough. I would talk to him. Assumption plays a big role in failure, hate, and lots of other bad things.

He's GOT to know you guys know.

Bummer that he is right next door.

By: Tracee

Tracee — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:54:00 +0000

There’s a part of me – and some statistical evidence – that Violet’s Hub’s approach – extreme male social pressure as a consequence to sexual assault – is the only effective measure and we’re being self-defeating by being worried about “being mean.”

By: Violet

Violet — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:48:00 +0000

Hub thinks Jeremy should go over and threaten him with his life and then harass him mercilessly every day until he moves.

That seems so mean, but Hub says, so what? F*** him, he lost his right to have friendly neighbors when he committed the crime. I tend to be more sympathetic, but maybe that is not a good thing.

I had to stop Hub last year from distributing highly inappropriate fliers about one that lives near our house last year.

By: Violet

Violet — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:42:00 +0000

No, harassing him about loud parties is not going to help.

I think you should talk to him and his wife together if you feel comfortable enough to and say very calmly this is what I heard, this is why I am concerned etc. and ask them what they have to say about it. It never hurts to have more information about the situation.

Tell the kids not to talk to him and to come inside if they see him on your property or if he talks to them. Then make sure all the locks on your doors and windows are secure.