http://thegirlrevolution.com/guest-post-lucy/ Growing Girls With Purpose Fri, 10 Sep 2010 04:23:51 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://thegirlrevolution.com/guest-post-lucy/comment-page-1/#comment-1757 Yaya Fri, 18 Jul 2008 10:58:00 +0000 http://thegirlrevolution.com/guest-post-lucy/#comment-1757 We just had my 17-half-sister-in-law visiting from Texas and it was so sad to me because everything/everywhere we went her main purpose was to receive attention from boys. I'm talking everywhere....she put on another layer of make-up in the car before we did anything (ie, ran into the store for milk). it was so sad to me that her self-value is determined by the attention she gets from boys. She was here for one week and managed to find about 10 boyfriends in the area through facebook, myspace and aim to attach herself to. My husband and I tried our best to rehab her self-view and attention-seeking actions....but what could we do in one week that wouldn't immediately be erased when she got back to texas? We just made sure to keep telling her how beautiful, skinny, etc she was and that she didn't need make-up and boys' attention to feel important.<br/>I remember being boy-crazy as a teen, but she definitely took it to the extreme. We know her home-life is not the best, and it just goes to show that even though you might have 2 parents at home, it doesn't mean anything if they are not involved. My husband's father left when he was young and went and started this new family (hence, my 17-half-sis-in-law) and my husband has resentful feelings about his father leaving, but after this visit, he sort of realized that maybe he was better off without his father in his life, since his half-sister is so attention-needy and actually had their dad in her life.... We just had my 17-half-sister-in-law visiting from Texas and it was so sad to me because everything/everywhere we went her main purpose was to receive attention from boys. I’m talking everywhere….she put on another layer of make-up in the car before we did anything (ie, ran into the store for milk). it was so sad to me that her self-value is determined by the attention she gets from boys. She was here for one week and managed to find about 10 boyfriends in the area through facebook, myspace and aim to attach herself to. My husband and I tried our best to rehab her self-view and attention-seeking actions….but what could we do in one week that wouldn’t immediately be erased when she got back to texas? We just made sure to keep telling her how beautiful, skinny, etc she was and that she didn’t need make-up and boys’ attention to feel important.
I remember being boy-crazy as a teen, but she definitely took it to the extreme. We know her home-life is not the best, and it just goes to show that even though you might have 2 parents at home, it doesn’t mean anything if they are not involved. My husband’s father left when he was young and went and started this new family (hence, my 17-half-sis-in-law) and my husband has resentful feelings about his father leaving, but after this visit, he sort of realized that maybe he was better off without his father in his life, since his half-sister is so attention-needy and actually had their dad in her life….

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