Real Sex, Take 35

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The New "Sexy"

According to the Center for Disease Control teen pregnancy rates “significantly” increased in 26 states in 2006, (it takes 3 years to get the latest statistics even with the Internet?)

One new study has found a link between sex on television and teen pregnancies. Duh.

While in the shower, meditating on how to effectively reduce the teen pregnancy rate in the United States, I had an epiphany.

Access to condoms? More educational information about risks? Push more abstinence? Make girls wear Purity Rings and have Virginity Balls with their Daddies? Eh, Maybe.

But, I was thinking something way more revolutionary and radical!

What if we – their parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, mentors, counselors – talked about our real sex lives so much that it made sex seem like a middle-aged, kinda-grody thing to do?

If we told them the TRUTH about sex – the vaginal dryness and the right kinds of lubricants, the scheduled passion that begins with the ever so hot “wanna do it?” during the precious 20 minutes after the kids go to bed and Mommy crashes, the wet spot, the very exciting way you still must remind each other to brush their teeth if there’s to be any french kissing, the way it’s really awkward and somewhat painful to do it in water, how it took us years to figure out our bodies enough to be comfortable in certain positions and even longer to figure out how to move our bodies so as to have an orgasm, how we sometimes get too winded and have to take a breather, how you have to hold your breath to have morning sex.

And after we’ve made them really want to throw up, we can admit that even with all that “old married sex is still the best sex we’ve ever had.”

What if we took sex back from the media by talking about it more than they do? What if we planted our own images in their heads to combat the big fat lies the media is telling about sex?

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#1 Anna on 02.26.09 at 8:12 pm

Hmm. Interesting concept. I’m not sure it would have worked for me, and I started having sex when I was fourteen. My first thought is that it’s inappropriate to talk to a child about my own sex life, but I’ll think about it.

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#2 rebecca on 02.26.09 at 10:33 pm

Serious genius.

#3 Tracee on 02.27.09 at 8:12 am

Consider that maybe it’s that old puritanical “don’t talk about sex” social moor that makes talking about sex to our kids feel inappropriate. The media obviously feels no such inhibitions to avoid inappropriateness and we don’t seem to be rushing towards regulation of the media. This effectively means that the media – the worst people on planet earth to inform kids about sex – are responsible for the sexual information kids are getting. And their main motive is to sell stuff. Stuff.

I’m thinking it’s time for a new strategy. Take sex back.

#4 that girl on 03.25.09 at 7:14 am

I love this strategy. I’m not sure about sharing the details of my own sex life – but a realistic explanation would sort of take the taboo away..
I even brought it up w/ my son’s father.. he was a little skeptical – but at least it’s something to think about.

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