If women cared more about the fact that their bodies could DO stuff: attract mates, create human beings, dance beautifully, create beautiful meals, create the experience of intimacy and amazing sex, calm babies and cuddle children . . .

instead of obsessing negatively obsessing on a perceived and imaginary flaw . . .

we’d not only feel better about ourselves and like ourselves more . . . we’d be far more effective in doing what we do with our minds and our bodies.

It’s about self-talk, self-love and self-perception.

Last week, I played paintball games w/ a group of teen boys, my husband and BIL. As we were playing, I thought, “Hell, I can kick these boys’ arses”…and I may not have kicked ‘em, but by God, I held my own–I was one of the last standing in two of the six rounds. That afternoon, I was queen of the paintball world–I could have taken on anyone!

My looks (and gender) had me behind the 8-ball at the beginning of the day, but by the end, some of those teens had a newfound respect for the mom who went out running through the fields & woods to take out the other team. At some point my attitude morphed from “Mom who wants to play, too…” to “Serious Contender”.

The feeling was amazing. I think if we spend more time as women focusing on what we can *do* with our bodies instead of how we look, we’d find more confidence within ourselves to be OK with not looking like Angelina Jolie.