Your Boundaries Deepen Intimacy

Guest Post by Hillary Rubin, Your Partner in Transformation. Her website is an awesome place to start a yoga practice.

A few months back I went back to my hometown to go through my childhood belongings. It has been years that I have been there. Over the few days I had there I went on a journey inside of my mind and heart. I walked down memory lane reading old journals, looking through pictures, my artwork and other stuff. A friend suggested I burn sage around everything and this was a great help to release and let go. I ended up donating most of it and throwing the rest away keeping about 1% and lightening my load. In the past my tendency was to do too much. I would try to see everybody and throw my energy all over the place forgetting why I went there in the first place.

To help me in my process I set an intention (really important step) – to make peace with my past and a specific part of it. This intention became my boundary that helped me take care of myself in a way I never have before. I discovered a deep intimacy with myself by doing this that words cannot describe. When we talk about boundaries most of us think of other people’s boundaries but for me it includes our personal boundaries, which make a world of difference. This time I stood strong with my promise and was able to flow without explaining myself and honoring myself instead. Each step along the way opened me to a deeper sense of intimacy to my friends, husband and self. There were a few moments of high awkwardness that I was called to be even more sensitive and by taking the moment to breathe and listen it unfolded perfectly. I’ve made peace with this part of my life and know that the ties are cut and am more free than ever to honor myself and those around me.

Boundaries make life and relationships more intimate. Honor yours and those around you!

A few tips to help on your path:

1. Set intentions in your relationships with yourself and others especially when you are moving into states of awkwardness.

2. Listen and observe body language as well as the voice of others when you are interacting. Emails & Texts are tricky!!!!! (many do the opposite of what they say)

3. Check in to see if you are you wanting to please others and disregarding your personal boundaries?

4. Be honest, let those around you understand where you are and let them know its not personal. (reading the four agreements will help here)

5. When you are upset by someone who is not honoring you, see where you are not honoring yourself.

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Hillary Rubin

Global Yoga Authority & Leader of The Wellness Revolution

In 1996 at the height of her career, Hillary Rubin was diagnosed with MS (Multiple Sclerosis). Instead of succumbing to the condition and allowing it to limit her possibilities, she chose to find and use all-natural remedies that led her to be symptom-free and medication-free today.

As a highly respected leader in the health and wellness industry teaching Anusara Yoga ™ and speaking on empowering modalities for optimal health, she travels around the world to inspire people to transform their deepest challenges and illnesses into opportunities to achieve optimal health, happiness, and well-bein.

This was reprinted by permission from Hillary Rubin 2009-2010 ©

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